Ego ‘bad’, higher self ‘good’, right? Maybe.
If you have been on a spiritual path for some time, you will know that a lot of spiritual teachings talk about ego vs the higher self.
Usually the ego is given a bad rap and if you are one of those people who is acutely aware of keeping your ego in check, you may be fearful of overshadowing people, being arrogant, falling into old limiting beliefs for instance.
I’ve recently come across this wonderful book called ‘Sensitive is the New Strong: The Power of Empaths in an Increasingly Harsh World’ by Anita Moorjani. It really struck a chord and made me rethink these beliefs.
For two decades now I have been called an empath, but out of fear of feeding my ego, I shied away from any labels. Sounds noble right?
Unfortunately, in not acknowledging this trait I became a very big, very flat doormat!
I allowed people to walk all over me. I gave people who were authority figures – a boss I was working for, a spiritual teacher, a coach, a business authority for example – a higher priority.
I allowed their truth or their opinions to take over what was truth for me because I thought I was acting from a humble, ego-less place.
This pattern is also true for a lot of the women I work. For some it is wildly debilitating, for others it is something that creeps in from time to time.
If this you, remember: ego is not a dirty word.
A healthy ego is part of being human, even if we are on a spiritual path and here on this earthly plane to express ourselves and do beautiful things.
It is also my firm belief that we don’t have an idea or a dream planted in our heart if it is not something that we want to be going for. It doesn’t mean that we want to hold tightly onto the outcome of it, but we do certainly want to be able to go for our dreams and be able to express ourselves as the instruments of love or as divine wisdom.
In this way we are playing both roles. We are spiritual beings and we are expressing that through our human-ness every day through our businesses, relationships and daily life.
I want to leave you with this question: ‘How do you know that you are being humble, versus, how do you know that you are struggling with low self esteem?